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Post by goten0040 on Dec 11, 2009 22:04:29 GMT -5
Again, all you can really do is put up with it. Try to get close to the parent that accepts you in the mean time, so maybe he'll back up his son. If you really like this guy, you'll have to deal with her.
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Post by Gran Gran on Dec 12, 2009 15:07:56 GMT -5
i need a back up plan though... so i told my JROTC teacher (i calll him 1st Seargent or 1SG) about the reciving line thing and he's like "wow are you serious ,you'd think she'd have more respect." Well, yeah, she has no manners.But you can't make her behave. So like Goten said, you kinda have to make due. In my unprofessional opinion she has a screw lose, but that's neither here nor there, it's not gonna be fixed. There is no back up plan. You are either together with that young man and put up with Mommy Dearest, being sweet and pleasant, or you look for a gentleman with a more agreeable mother. BTW, with Christmas coming up, there are a number of outlet stores that let you buy expensive looking presents for a song  Like I said, the sugary kiss-up route will make you look very good and her not so much. Might not succeed, but you will come out ahead.  |
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Post by ~»Lava Lamp «~ on Dec 13, 2009 0:27:39 GMT -5
the thing is i never get to se him. he can't come down my house, and forget about his house (i highly doubt that could even go over anyway) so i really don't have a chance to suck up or anything like that, but maybe with the holidays.. i'll keep you's updated...
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Post by Aanglover on Dec 13, 2009 10:22:43 GMT -5
well maybe thats why she seems all hostile towards u..cuz she hasnt gotten to know u and she thinks u might b a trouble maker...whatever it is..u need to try to grin and bare it for the time being...she should come around.
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Post by Gran Gran on Dec 13, 2009 13:50:45 GMT -5
the thing is i never get to se him. he can't come down my house, and forget about his house (i highly doubt that could even go over anyway) so i really don't have a chance to suck up or anything like that, but maybe with the holidays.. i'll keep you's updated... patience, Grasshopper!  |
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Post by ~»Lava Lamp «~ on Dec 14, 2009 20:01:23 GMT -5
the thing is i never get to se him. he can't come down my house, and forget about his house (i highly doubt that could even go over anyway) so i really don't have a chance to suck up or anything like that, but maybe with the holidays.. i'll keep you's updated... patience, Grasshopper! that's one thing i don't have plenty of. |
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Post by Gran Gran on Dec 15, 2009 0:36:35 GMT -5
LOL, consider this a period of personal growth! |
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Post by Mari on Dec 15, 2009 12:33:33 GMT -5
Well, from personal experience, my grandmother(who I lived with my final year of high school) hated my fiancee with a passion. It seemed like there was no talking to her or anything. The only thing you can really do is wait, but don't sneak around though, take it from me, she will find out give it time, you're sixteen, he's seventeen, you're almost legal. |
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Post by ~»Lava Lamp «~ on Dec 16, 2009 16:12:56 GMT -5
What's that suppose to mean? lol ;D
gran gran, this is a journey of personal groth...
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Post by Mari on Dec 16, 2009 17:51:45 GMT -5
What's that suppose to mean? lol ;D gran gran, this is a journey of personal groth... You can buy a house |
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Post by ~»Lava Lamp «~ on Dec 16, 2009 18:12:43 GMT -5
i jokingly told him he could live in my basement and his mom yelled at him. because she monitors everything he does.
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Post by goten0040 on Dec 16, 2009 18:57:38 GMT -5
Um... joking about things like that might not be wise with her monitoring him. 0__0
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Post by Gran Gran on Dec 17, 2009 12:36:52 GMT -5
It's a matter of what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. Grin and bare. You can take the situation, analyse it and take away the knowledge of what makes some people tick, how to play the game, especially when your opponent isn't playing with a full deck. However, you are in the lime light. When Mommy Dearest is around, you will have to be the perfect little lady, no kidding and joking and proving her argument of what a deceitful evil little wench you are (her view) save the funnies for school, when she is not around. And whatever you do, it's better not to be openly hostile about her in his presence, or around people who will tell him. it's painful enough to be stricken with a crazy parent, he is 50% her son, love it or hate it, and eventually his teenage rebellion with ceize and he will be back to loving her and hate you talking bad about her. having a fight and having 'You hate my mother' thrown at you - even though she is loco - is not a fun thing. It crosses the line you can't overstep in a relationship. You know, like when you fight, you can't use the biggest mostest faults or weakest points against him, that's part of it. maybe you parents could help you kids out a bit tho and invite his parents over for dinner. mommy Dearest won't (hopefully) not be so rude to you in your own home in front of your parents. (maybe not serve alcohol tho...drunk loonies are a ticking timebomb!  ) |
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Post by ~»Lava Lamp «~ on Dec 18, 2009 14:41:53 GMT -5
matt told me the other day that if i want her to like me "again" that i just have to drop the fact that she hates me..
i don't think i can just drop the fact that she does, but i think what he means is to just stop talking about it completely.. that would work in a way but i can't just not talk about something like that...so i guess if it's brought up i'll talk about it...
but i'll still keep you updated...
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Post by Gran Gran on Dec 18, 2009 23:10:15 GMT -5
matt told me the other day that if i want her to like me "again" that i just have to drop the fact that she hates me.. i don't think i can just drop the fact that she does, but i think what he means is to just stop talking about it completely.. that would work in a way but i can't just not talk about something like that...so i guess if it's brought up i'll talk about it... but i'll still keep you updated... Well, it means he doesn't want to hear about it anymore. He knows it very well but it does not do anything to keep talking. You can tell your parents or write it down in your diary. It's not nice to hear over and over what an idiot your parent is. I mean, be honest, you are keenly aware of your parents' short comings you don't need to hear it over and over again. So yeah, she hates you, and chances are she won't stop anytime soon, but you have to play it smart. She being nasty and pushing your buttons can drive a wedge between your and your BF. Eventually it grades on your both and you break up, mission accomplished, and you lose because you are this wretched wench that hated his mommy who just protected her son from you. grin and bare... Loonies luck, what can I say. |
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Like I said, the sugary kiss-up route will make you look very good and her not so much. Might not succeed, but you will come out ahead. 
