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Post by MoonChild on Oct 18, 2008 5:35:29 GMT -5
There's this guy. We met on a camp and I fell for him. Today was the first time we have met since those months ago; he asked me out to the movies.
Now I have doubts. I am the one who vocalises "I love you", yet he either shows it by hugs, cuddles, an SMS or two, or a kiss on the head (all of which happened at the movies).
He has a girlfriend and that's my doubt. Because of this we haven't "kissed", but I don't know if he's playing around, if he truly loves me, if he's just being nice or if he doesn't love his girlfriend anymore.
We live far away from each other and that's what scares me.
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Post by Paraiba Ocean on Oct 18, 2008 9:36:53 GMT -5
If he has a girlfriend, why did he go to the movies with you in the first place? :/
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Post by goten0040 on Oct 18, 2008 11:01:54 GMT -5
I'd back out. He's playing you. If this guy already has a girlfriend, he's out of line to be going on dates with you. He'll just end up hurting you. It's time to back off. I know it sucks, but I've been totally "in love" with a guy with a girlfriend. It only hurt worse in the end. "Love" is an overused word anyway. XD
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Post by Gran Gran on Oct 18, 2008 13:15:01 GMT -5
Yep, don't go there.
He is not only not doing right by you but also by his girlfriend. You don't want to be second fiddle - if even that high. While I am not advocating being a surd (it has it's advantages some times though) being a doormat or a matter of conviniance never pays out for you.
You live far away so he does not need to commit, but comes to you to get his ego stroked. You are worth a boyfriend of your own, who does not just cuddle but tells you (and 'kisses') you, and only you!
And not some dude who can't commit either way!
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Post by Splendi on Oct 18, 2008 13:48:16 GMT -5
Believe me, I'm in the same situation.. But I'm not lucky enough to see him agian 'till New Years.
We worked together at a camp in the summer and had to keep it under the radar for a month.. and as soon as we got some time to ourselves he had to go back home, 300 miles away. Since everyone calls me Bob at the camp, he'd always addressed me as such, and I was kinda mad about it. If he liked me as much as he said he did, call me by my real name please...? The last thing he said to me at the airport when he left was "I love you, Abby."
And we've tried to keep in contact over the phone, but it really hasn't worked out. He likes to joke around and I can't always tell when he's being serious.. it's a terrible thing.
Now, he's got a girlfriend back home, and I really have no problem with this. It's his private home life, I'm just a summer thing.. really, honestly, it's a hookup that went too far.
Just keep reality in your sights. And don't stay hung up on him, you'll go crazy.. I'm living proof. It's so hard to keep long distance relationships going. My guy and I haven't spoken in nearly three weeks.
Which, omg, reminds me that today is two months apart. That's ironic, eh?
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Post by Blind Bandit on Oct 18, 2008 14:00:45 GMT -5
I'd back out. He's playing you. If this guy already has a girlfriend, he's out of line to be going on dates with you. He'll just end up hurting you. It's time to back off. I know it sucks, but I've been totally "in love" with a guy with a girlfriend. It only hurt worse in the end. "Love" is an overused word anyway. XD Agreed don't get involved in this kinda drama it only ends badly. And you don't want to be put in the middle of issues he is having. Never get involved with someone who is already attached, your the third wheel and more often then not you would be first one to be dropped should he have to make a choice. Yep, don't go there. He is not only not doing right by you but also by his girlfriend. You don't want to be second fiddle - if even that high. While I am not advocating being a surd (it has it's advantages some times though) being a doormat or a matter of conviniance never pays out for you. You live far away so he does not need to commit, but comes to you to get his ego stroked. You are worth a boyfriend of your own, who does not just cuddle but tells you (and 'kisses') you, and only you! And not some dude who can't commit either way! Again true And not all of us are like that just the jerks. There are nice guys out there you just have to look. It seems your getting a lot of the same advice here. I would definably listen, continuing this will not end well.
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Grandi
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Post by Grandi on Oct 18, 2008 14:01:57 GMT -5
You should totally bang him.
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Post by Blind Bandit on Oct 18, 2008 14:04:21 GMT -5
You should totally bang him. Oh ya that was helpful.....
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Post by Linksy on Oct 18, 2008 15:02:34 GMT -5
Don't get into that kind of drama. It sucks. It will end with everyone getting hurt, and he's probably not worth it. Believe me, I've been the girl on the other end, the one the boy pretends to still love while he's dating two other girls whenever you're out of town or not paying attention. It's not fun for anyone.
Think of it this way. If he has a girlfriend, but he's giving a girl who isn't his girlfriend hugs, cuddles, etc., then what do you think could happen if you became his girlfriend?
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Post by Paraiba Ocean on Oct 18, 2008 17:25:56 GMT -5
@linksy: Exactly.
So let's say he and his girlfriend break up and you two start going out.
Who's to say he won't do to you what he did to her?
And I'd be careful with the word love. People have a knack for throwing it around these days, and more often than not, it's likely this is just a crush. :/
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Grandi
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Post by Grandi on Oct 18, 2008 18:27:50 GMT -5
And I'd be careful with the word love. People have a knack for throwing it around these days, and more often than not, it's likely this is just a crush. :/ Says the girl who's in love with an azn rockstar she's never met
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Post by Yakuza on Oct 18, 2008 19:44:14 GMT -5
I'm actually just going to have to come right out and ask this...
How is love an overused word?
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Post by Paraiba Ocean on Oct 18, 2008 19:54:23 GMT -5
Yakuza: Maybe it is where I live, but preteens in middle school go out with some person they for like ~*two days*~ And everywhere on their myspace I LOVE YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU Pls. And I'd be careful with the word love. People have a knack for throwing it around these days, and more often than not, it's likely this is just a crush. :/ Says the girl who's in love with an azn rockstar she's never met You're real cute. I never said I was in love with Yunho, so stfu kthxbai.
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Grandi
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Post by Grandi on Oct 18, 2008 19:58:54 GMT -5
Ty bby, I'm in love. Wanna make out? I'm sure my boyfriend won't mind.
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Post by goten0040 on Oct 18, 2008 20:58:14 GMT -5
Back on topic, please.
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