TML
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Post by TML on May 31, 2008 0:50:25 GMT -5
My best friend is considering to take her life away.
She has gone through a lot of things and she tells me.
I'm scared that she might take her life away.
She wants to commit suicide.
She told me not to feel guilty and a whole bunch of other things.
But what if she were to take her life away??
What do I do??
I want to tell someone but who?
Her parents don't care about her.
I don't know if I should tell the police or someone like that.
I love her like a sister.
I need to do something.
Anything to save her but I don't know how.
So many things are hitting me at the same time.
I don't know what to do anymore. =\
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Post by falthor on May 31, 2008 1:20:42 GMT -5
Call a suicide helpline, Vannish.
1-800-273-TALK
(1-800-273-8255)
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Post by Blind Bandit on May 31, 2008 3:38:07 GMT -5
My best friend is considering to take her life away. She has gone through a lot of things and she tells me. I'm scared that she might take her life away. She wants to commit suicide. She told me not to feel guilty and a whole bunch of other things. But what if she were to take her life away?? What do I do?? I want to tell someone but who? Her parents don't care about her. I don't know if I should tell the police or someone like that. I love her like a sister. I need to do something. Anything to save her but I don't know how. So many things are hitting me at the same time. I don't know what to do anymore. =\ Call a suicide helpline, Vannish. 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) I agree with Falthor have her speak to a counselor , teacher who ever will listen. Get her any help you can, and don't let her do something she may regret! I can understand to some degree your friends situation. I've thought of suicide more times than I would like to admit. Been so low I don't know how to get back up again. But I can assure your friend that killing herself will not make things better. Now everyone has a right to their life , but it doesn't mean she should give up. Suicide hurts people left behind it can cause massive hardship for those close to the people who value her. What I do to fight the sudden on rush of feelings is to think of every family member, every friend, every on line bud, and every person you may have been associated with. And think simply how could I explain this to people who valued me? I do this when ever I get the slightest feeling of loosing hope. I wouldn't be able to give a justifiable reason. I would be a monster for inflicting such wounds on my loved ones. This may seem silly , but we need to understand we hurt others when we take our lives away. A great quote, I'm pretty sure from either Steven king or Dean Koontz the specific book escapes me at the moment. "What we do echos into eternity!" Our actions become rippling waves that effect every person around us. the influcnce be positive, or negative we effect others. When someone passes away or takes their own life their influence ceases to move outward. This is tragic especially, if someone gives in, and takes their life. Suicide is not the only way ,and it never has to be. I wish your friend the very best. But she must never be willing to quit. If she is be happy. |
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Post by firefists101 on May 31, 2008 6:20:35 GMT -5
What BB said is a lot of what I would say.
Make her think of everyone. Everyone she'd leave. Everyone she'd hurt. Make her stay for them, at least. That's the only reason I'm here...I can't hurt anyone like that. If you make her stay for everyone else, then you can work with her and make her live for herself again.
I wouldn't be much help....because I feel the same as your friend. Honestly, if she was my friend and not yours, I'd probably let her go. But, letting her escape this world won't help you...it won't make you feel any better for her. So, make her stay.
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Post by 2X the All-Powerful! on May 31, 2008 14:03:44 GMT -5
what my friend says is, you never know how many people actually care about you til you're gone, so pass that message on.
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TML
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Post by TML on May 31, 2008 18:23:50 GMT -5
To Everyone that posted here= Thank you very much. You have no idea how much I appreciate this. What I do to fight the sudden on rush of feelings is to think of every family member, every friend, every on line bud, and every person you may have been associated with. And think simply how could I explain this to people who valued me? I do this when ever I get the slightest feeling of loosing hope. I wouldn't be able to give a justifiable reason. I would be a monster for inflicting such wounds on my loved ones. This may seem silly , but we need to understand we hurt others when we take our lives away. A great quote, I'm pretty sure from either Steven king or Dean Koontz the specific book escapes me at the moment. "What we do echos into eternity!" Our actions become rippling waves that effect every person around us. the influcnce be positive, or negative we effect others. When someone passes away or takes their own life their influence ceases to move outward. This is tragic especially, if someone gives in, and takes their life. Suicide is not the only way ,and it never has to be. I wish your friend the very best. But she must never be willing to quit. If she is be happy. Yeah, one should think about what would happen to the others you will leave behind. I'm doing my best to be by her side. I even told her that when we're older we can live together. We look like sisters and it's as if it is. She tells me that I am one of the few things that keeps her alive. I love her so much. There is no boundary for the love I have for my best friend. That is why I am glad to be able count on the few people that posted here. It's like a wave of relief that showered me. On Monday, I don't care how she reacts...I'm running up to her and hugging her. =] Again, thank you [all of you]. |
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Post by 2X the All-Powerful! on May 31, 2008 18:36:20 GMT -5
Good plan. There's very little that feels as good as an unexpected hug from a loved one during a really dark time.
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Post by Solvabibble on May 31, 2008 19:55:43 GMT -5
Vanne, I've never been in this type of situation before, so I don't really know what to tell you.  All I know is that you should let your friend know how much you care about her. Let her know that you'll be there for her no matter what. Hold on tight (figuratively) and don't ever let her go. |
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Post by TML on Jun 2, 2008 20:34:01 GMT -5
LOL.
I hugged her and it kinda hurt. xD
She was wearing a collar around her neck that had like thorns on them.
hahaha.
Things are better now. I hope.
I am going to try to pull her away from the darkness.
I will be her ray of light along with my other friends.
She is dear to me and I will not let her go.
My other two best friends may not know it but I love them too much.
lol. TooMuchLove.
*glomps DH* ^_^
@court/Solva= Thank You. It's alright. At least, you tried to help me in some kind of way. *hugs*
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Post by Bleda on Jun 3, 2008 1:49:56 GMT -5
Call a suicide line, make her talk with school counselor or any teacher you can find. Just make her talk to someone who can help. And support her emotionally, don't leth her psyche to break Because when you feel desperate enough.. Well, everything seems logical. (I tried to commit suicide, once, when I was much younger, and I felt that way) |
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Post by Zenjamin on Jun 5, 2008 11:38:13 GMT -5
There are some people who might feel pressured or shamed if asked to talk to somebody else...
for some, telling them how valueable their life is might aleinate them...
There are two alternate things you might want to consider...
1: Tell her she would be selfish, and weak willed if she did that... that may be extreme, but tell her its not about her. tell her that if she did this thing, you couldnt live with yourself. You, and everybody else she would care about would feel extreme guilt for the rest of their lives, and might even follow her. Tell her that she should live not for herself, nobody can understand how much she values her life... but she cant know how much others value her, so she has to live for others.
2: Use the fear of the afterlife.
Tell her that you dont really believe in hell... but there is still a .1% chance you could be wrong and she would forever be in eternal pain. If she went on living, there is still a small chance she will be happy again, but should she take her life, that chance has bee reduced to zero.
However, im most cases, its just a cry for help and understanding. To be understood after death, when the world takes your life under a microscope, and you have no fear because you have nothing... but you are known, and you do not care, you are secure with others knowing who you are.
So ya, in most cases, just get help.
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Post by Blind Bandit on Jun 5, 2008 12:03:31 GMT -5
There are some people who might feel pressured or shamed if asked to talk to somebody else... for some, telling them how valueable their life is might aleinate them... There are two alternate things you might want to consider... 1: Tell her she would be selfish, and weak willed if she did that... that may be extreme, but tell her its not about her. tell her that if she did this thing, you couldnt live with yourself. You, and everybody else she would care about would feel extreme guilt for the rest of their lives, and might even follow her. Tell her that she should live not for herself, nobody can understand how much she values her life... but she cant know how much others value her, so she has to live for others. 2: Use the fear of the afterlife. Tell her that you dont really believe in hell... but there is still a .1% chance you could be wrong and she would forever be in eternal pain. If she went on living, there is still a small chance she will be happy again, but should she take her life, that chance has bee reduced to zero. However, im most cases, its just a cry for help and understanding. To be understood after death, when the world takes your life under a microscope, and you have no fear because you have nothing... but you are known, and you do not care, you are secure with others knowing who you are. So ya, in most cases, just get help. I don't think those would be wise. And that might push her further. I don't think its a good idea to guilt trip somone. Its more important to try and understand what is cuasing such pain. Not tell somone its all their fault. You can mention that you would be leaving people behind but telling somone shes going to hell is not a vaiable solution. |
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Post by Zenjamin on Jun 5, 2008 12:14:44 GMT -5
Ya, I agree in most cases....
but there are people who are... well, you cant use the common sense solution with them.
They view the idea that people telling them they need "help" makes them weak. and when people push, trying to help them, it just pours salt on the wound of feelings of inadequacy.
Then, they may start to feel that you betrayed them by exposing them to this shame, and they regret having let you get close in the first place.
Most times, its just a cry for help, or a method they are using to change their live and become a new person... but there are rare cases. If they are the type to feel shamed or weak when people they feel they do not trust start to talk to things so personal, you must be verry careful.
PS:
I completely agree that you must try to find out the source of the pain. But dont just pass it off to someone else that the other person may or may not trust/ respect/ feel comfortable around.
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All I know is that you should let your friend know how much you care about her. Let her know that you'll be there for her no matter what. Hold on tight (figuratively) and don't ever let her go. 
