I spent a majority of today looking through old threads, trying to catch up with all that I missed in my over year of absence, and the one thing that has made me really sad was the amount of guest accounts there are now. I started sifting through announcements, archieved threads, even a few threads from a few months ago, and there are so many guest names that I knew.
With every name I saw in that depressing white I felt something stab into me. Every time I saw a deleted account I thougth about what they took from DH. Their usually funny icons bounce into my head coupled with their clever wit coming through their location and siggie quotes. The personal text that we will never be able to see again. All the contact info that they had in case we were ever feeling nastalgic enough to send something to 'em. Its as if we've been denied the ability to find their other posts, and it honestly hurts a bit.
It makes me wish I could go back in time, reverse some of the decisions that drove so many away from us, or at the very least tell them not to delete their accounts. A deletion of an account is about the most permanent thing you can do to erase who you were, so why would you want to do that? I just don't understand it *shakes head* So to those who are thinking about leaving now or in the near future I simply ask that you leave us something to remember you by other than a guest name that may not even be the display name we all know and love you by.
You're right, GH. I feel the same way, also. I have to admit, that sometimes I look back at my PMs of the people that have deleted their accounts. =/ I miss them. Like Danny for example. I hope that the people that want to leave actually read this or at least skim through this post. I also hurt a bit on the inside when I see those plain white letters. Karma for you for saying this.♥
A lot of people who posted on that are gone now, too...
I remember almost every single event brought up in that thread, though. But I don't remember that thread existing back when it was made, I must have missed it. Wow, even "I" am mentioned in VP's opening post.
There are even fewer of us left now than there were when that thread was made... now that Awapuhi has gone... I think I'm the only remaining DH member from October 2005 that has been around DH the whole time.
That thread does make me sad. I really meant what I had said in my first post there too.
By the way, I believe Kaneda came in initially at the same time as you. His current account doesn't have his original join date on it... no way of changing it either.
It is to be expected that people come and go from forums. They meet new people and move on to other things. I was a member of a forum for well over 7 years now.. and I have not posted in the last 4 or 5 years. My interests have changed greatly and the general forum population had changed to people I no longer could associate with.
We do have to keep in mind that the average age here at DH is an age that many changes take place socially in a person's lifetime. The frequency of members coming and going are going to occur more often. As sad as it might be, it should somewhat be expected.
GH has hijacked your profile to say I love you, and you'll be missed *teardrop*
Post by uverworldluv on Mar 27, 2008 12:26:56 GMT -5
Well, maybe there's a brightside. It seems like there are new members coming in almost everyday. And I know that the people who left are well known and loved, and no one knows who I am, but..I hope my presence makes up for something.
[[Hope it didn't sound egotistical or anything. I didn't mean for it to be]]
Let's keep our heads up and hope that all those lost members come back
Forgiveness is the first step you have to take to begin healing. ♥