Silent_E
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Post by Silent_E on Mar 21, 2008 15:59:45 GMT -5
It's certainly not racist to want to date within your own race, if that was the case, most of us would be racist. Certainly if you entered an interracial relationship you would have to make adjustments on cutural views and other things of that nature. Also, touching upon previous posts, it's human nature for parents to want their children to resemble themselves. That is another thing a person have to consider if they go into an interracial relationship and ultimately marry.
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Post by Grimmjow of the Funk on Mar 22, 2008 9:32:44 GMT -5
i like all attractive women if your hot your hot and race doesn't stop that. i haven't dated outside my race because i just haven't but i have dated in my race. i don't think it really matters. people do the same thing with religion. my mom doesn't want me to date someone who isn't jewish but i really couldn't care less.
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Post by username on Mar 26, 2008 2:15:17 GMT -5
I'm bisexual, and I believe it is unlikely that I can have a relationship with a black man, as I do not find men of that ethnicity to be sexually attractive. I personally don't think of it as racist. I'm not judging a person's character based on their appearance, im judging their appearance based on their appearance. Perfectly logical.
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Post by CountessRachel on Mar 26, 2008 2:26:34 GMT -5
That's okay. I'm really not attracted to black men either--which, in my case, is actually more socially unacceptable. Of course, seeing as where I live, the majority of black men here...struggle =/ ...but I won't get into that! =D
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Post by ilovetaang03 on Mar 26, 2008 5:48:21 GMT -5
im dating someone who is completely not my race. (he is south american) so it doesnt really matter to me at all.as long as you like the person race does not matter
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Post by lunar-tsunami on Mar 31, 2008 17:21:35 GMT -5
I'm bi-racial, so I suppose that means I'm always dipping into exotic waters. Or always familiar waters? Now I'm confused. I suppose if I only wanted to date someone exactly the same race as me, I'd have to find someone who was the exact proportions of mixing, which I've never seen before. It sometimes is very cool, because you get multiple points of view, but sometimes you get excluded even if you are part of that race as well. For example, I don't look Asian enough to be included in the Asian cliques at school. Funny, I am not black or Hispanic but I get a lot of attention from guys who are. And some of them are cute but I'm a little too reserved to hit on guys that I don't already know as a friend. I would be okay with dating anyone of any ethnicity as long as they had the qualities I value in a person. Getting the gene pool nice and varied is healthy and makes for pretty kids! One of the prettiest girls I know is literally like 10 different ethnic groups...she's black, chinese, several flavors of native american, white, I think even some really esoteric nationalities as well. She's amazingly pretty and nice to boot.
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Post by Chibi Chan-o on Apr 4, 2008 22:34:05 GMT -5
I have never dated but I have always been attracted to people of other races, especially Asians. The Asians at my school are more mature and smart than the other races (except for maybe the Middle Eastern Indians). I dunno, I just like people who aren't so goofy all the time. But since I'm white, I doubt I'd be able to date anyone besides white guys.
I don't think it's unusual for people to date outside their race. I think it's normal. My family is a melting pot so it just seems normal to me. I hope to be able to marry someone besides a white person someday.
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Post by cara24 on Apr 5, 2008 15:13:08 GMT -5
For me what it all boils down too is if the person I am dating believes the way I believe.
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Post by historyman12 on Apr 5, 2008 15:31:42 GMT -5
I'm not against dating other races..I mean if you fall in love with a black guy/girl or Asian guy/girl get married have kids, grow old, die together.
But I'm with Kaneda, that I don't find blacks that physically attractive, but only with girls. And I feel the same about Asians. I'm not saying you can't be friends with them. Three of my friends are black. Granted two of them are mixed, but still...
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Post by CountessRachel on Apr 6, 2008 2:38:16 GMT -5
But I'm with Kaneda, that I don't find blacks that physically attractive, but only with girls. And I feel the same about Asians. I'm not saying you can't be friends with them. Three of my friends are black. Granted two of them are mixed, but still... My bf used to say the exact same thing before he met me. (He's Asian). And ironically, I used to say the exact same thing about Asians. But now, he really only finds other black girls attractive. It might be true what they say.... ;D I also think there's a difference between finding someone attractive and actually being attracted to that person. You may not be attracted to someone and still find them aesthetically pleasing.
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Post by truwaterbender on Apr 6, 2008 19:19:11 GMT -5
Well I should start out with what I voted for. I said, No, what would me parents and fiends think?
It's not so much as m friends that would think badly of me since all of my friends aren't the same race as me, so they wouldn't care, it's my parents is what I worry about, what will they think of me?
They really want to keep the all mexican bloodline that has run in my family for generations and I kinda don't have a problem with that. Sure, sure it's going to be harder, a lot harder to find a guy who I like, who has all the traits I want in a guy, and add on top of that a hundred percent mexican blodline, than being able to pick a hot gringo off the street.
But it's not like my parents are setting up dates for me, and they'll have an arranged marrage for me, but they want a guy whose the same race as me and our family.
I also do want a guy whose te same race, with the mexican culture I'd rather have someone who experienced it like I did and has memories of growing up with the same culture. Okay so vareity is cool, but culture is something I'd rather have the same in a boyfriend.
I really do want a guy who's the same race as me, who share the same intrests, a guy who can intamatly talk about our culture together.
NOTE-I didn't mean to make any of you angry of ofend you, if I did, I'm very truly sorry, I just wanted to voice my opinion.
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Post by spiritmage234 on Apr 13, 2008 14:24:25 GMT -5
I'll date anyone who isn't a controlling idiot.
Yes. Stupidity breaks through all racial barriers.
Case and point: my ex was Filipino. I can't even begin his list of obnoxious, stupid, hot-headed - not to mention dangerous and [glow=red,2,300]illegal[/glow] - ideas of "fun".
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Post by CountessRachel on Apr 14, 2008 1:21:07 GMT -5
I'll date anyone who isn't a controlling idiot. Yes. Stupidity breaks through all racial barriers. Case and point: my ex was Filipino. I can't even begin his list of obnoxious, stupid, hot-headed - not to mention dangerous and [glow=red,2,300]illegal[/glow] - ideas of "fun". Woooow....that seriously almost sounds like my current bf...though not exactly hot-headed. I suppose I have a serious soft spot for "bad boys." ('Specially the Asian ones.)
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Post by Hinata Uzumaki IS BACK on Apr 14, 2008 10:04:28 GMT -5
seeing as i never really went out with anyone i dont have a comment
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Post by Atmos on Apr 14, 2008 12:24:00 GMT -5
(You don't see too many threads on CT lasting over a year, heheh)
Anyways, being a minority hispanic raised in the very predominant white community in the forested country county of PA, I never really had much a choice of who to date for race, lol.
But in a personal perspective, just being a hispanic the whole "interracial" dating thing was never big deal to me.
Looking at the history or hispanic countries - all hispanics are practically mutts to begin with. From the start of the age of discovery and colonization of the hispanic population grew from the ...uh..."genetic-exchange" </avoids using word "interbreed"> of various european countries, africans, and native american populations to say the least.
And within the current native populations of hispanic countries there aren't any real racial labels like "African-Dominican" or "Asian Argentinan" just because you share any physical characteristics predominant of a certain race. And for example, in Puerto Rico you have two native born Puerto Ricos from ancestors who have lived on the island for an equal amount of history but one with the predominant phenotype of an African and another with the predominant phenotype of a European/Caucasian. If the two were to date, locally it would not be considered "interracial."
However if you have two Americans, both from ancestors who have lived in the country for an equal amount of history but one with the predominant phenotype of an African and another with the predominant phenotype of a European/Caucasian and the two started dating, it's suddenly called "interracial."
This whole "race"-thing is just one big overrated mental block in American Society, but that's just my opinion off of my experience.
So in a discussion like this, I personally prefer the term "phenotype" or the physical features of an individual. (Yeah, this is just me being a technical son-of-a-gun) Or maybe even "ethnicity."
Do I mind dating someone with a significantly different ethnicity? Not at all - in general I do find different ethnicities attractive. Couples with different ethnicities/phenotypes are always good for the gene pool. LOL
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