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Post by stonewolf on Jan 2, 2011 14:07:42 GMT -5
My girlfriend has a friend whose nice enough byt also reallyy annoying. She' basically a know it all. She doesn't have a lot of friends son I feel bad for her and try to be nice to here even though she gets on my nerves too.. The problemn is she wants to hang around me and my gf all the time now. I don't want to be mean, and I feel bad she doesn't have other frends, but I'm also tired of having here always with us. Am I a terrible person? What should I do?
If nobody's really interested that's cool. I'll just delete this later.
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Post by goten0040 on Jan 2, 2011 15:40:48 GMT -5
Well, things like that can be very complicated. A tightrope, really. There is a way of going about this without being mean though. Naturally, some people can get annoying when they're around all the time, and she may have some quirks that leave her being a bit of... a loner. But this is your girlfriend. Just ask her to make some special time for just you and her, and to explain that to her friend. If her friend really cares, she should understand. And if your girlfriend is spending a little time away from this friend of hers, maybe her friend will be able to branch out and find other people to hang out with too.
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Post by Paraiba Ocean on Jan 5, 2011 10:02:13 GMT -5
It is possible your girlfriend feels similarly but she just doesn't want to speak up. However, don't take that as the end-all, be-all truth. So I think just asking for more personal time with you and your girlfriend is the way to go, and hopefully this friend will branch out, like Goten said. : )
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Post by Gran Gran on Jan 5, 2011 10:26:40 GMT -5
First of all, don't be so emo! 'ok if no one cares, I go and delete it'  Well, I am assuming you have other things on your mind when you are with your GF. Which would be ok. As suggested above, kind or arrange the schedule so you get some GF time without the other friend. However, I suggest having some compassion. maybe try to see what makes her tick. maybe she is just nerdy and reads to much. But I bet she has redeeming qualities. Maybe you can introduce her to some of your friends and make the circle a little bigger, so her quirks are more distributed. She might have problems fitting in with the girls because her interests are not in line with them, maybe she has more in common with the guys. |
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Post by Mari on Jan 5, 2011 16:26:39 GMT -5
You need to make time for both. Don't completely cut the chick out of the picture, but explain to her that you and your girl friend need time with each other. Tell you girlfriend to talk to her, or get some friends together to try and get her to fit in. There is billions of people in this world SOMEONE has to match her personality other than you two.
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Post by asian malaysian on Jan 7, 2011 1:14:03 GMT -5
Rework this song for your gf and let her sort it out.  |
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Post by Gran Gran on Jan 7, 2011 2:23:55 GMT -5
LOL, dududududu Steve...
Karma!
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Post by stonewolf on Jan 9, 2011 1:27:07 GMT -5
First of all, don't be so emo! 'ok if no one cares, I go and delete it' Well, I am assuming you have other things on your mind when you are with your GF. Which would be ok. As suggested above, kind or arrange the schedule so you get some GF time without the other friend. However, I suggest having some compassion. maybe try to see what makes her tick. maybe she is just nerdy and reads to much. But I bet she has redeeming qualities. Maybe you can introduce her to some of your friends and make the circle a little bigger, so her quirks are more distributed. She might have problems fitting in with the girls because her interests are not in line with them, maybe she has more in common with the guys. Lol, I just didn't want anyone feeling like like they had to geiv me advice. /shrug Thanks though to you guys. That video was really funny and I'll totally show it to my GF. I just know what's going to happen if she talks to her. She'll be all ticked and hurt, but I guess that's just the way it is. Maybe if she's ticked at us, she'll get the hint. I think sometimes somebody should tell her why she doesn't have any other friedds. I don't have thea heart to do it though. If only annoying people would just stop being annoying. lol Anyways, thanks again. If anyone's interested, I can let you know what happened. |
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