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Post by Mako on Aug 11, 2008 17:45:13 GMT -5
Thinking about middle school, I always remembered how short the relationships were. Now everyone that's gone to middle school knows that. 1 day, 1 week, 1 class. Am I right?
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Post by concreteangel on Aug 11, 2008 18:14:53 GMT -5
I never had a relationship in middle school, but I do remember friends that had them. Serious, i-love-you-and-we're-getting-married relationships in middle school!
Now, most of them have had way too many relationships to count and have gone way too far with many of them. It's all a big wreck.
My little sister's in middle school this year, and, thank goodness, she's at my private school. She's a cute kid, outgoing, and athletic and all those little 6th grade boys want to date her (though she's unofficially engaged to my brother's 13-year-old best friend).
Relationships in middle school are pointless. They don't yet know what love is and they're in the middle of a huge change in their lives and the kind of person they like then is definitely not the same kind of person they're going to want to date by high school or college.
So, yes, they were short, and they were also pointless. Little girls and boys should not be getting their hearts broken by a breakup at such a young age. I was fifteen when I had my first boyfriend, and I wouldn't have been ready for one any sooner.
Especially with the rise of teen (and preteen) pregnancies. But I can get into that later.
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Post by mike1921 on Aug 11, 2008 18:44:42 GMT -5
I disagree, they're not absolutely pointless, you'll learn a lot about mistakes through expierience, but as far as "we're going to get married when we turn 18" relationships go, My guess is 5 of them in my whole county went through to that and 3 of them got divorced by 20. People make too big a deal over them. You have to expect that you're probably not even going to last until highschool and remember it's a statistically irrelevant chance you're going to last longer. If you're lucky you'll still be friends by the time high school ends. Agreed Please tell me you're not talking about one of those girls only schools. Because if you haven't had any interaction someone of the opposite gender not related to you it should be expected that you'll rush into a relationship as soon as you get out and it might as well be an extra-gripey middle school relationship.
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Post by concreteangel on Aug 11, 2008 18:47:58 GMT -5
Please tell me you're not talking about one of those girls only schools. Because if you haven't had any interaction someone of the opposite gender not related to you it should be expected that you'll rush into a relationship as soon as you get out and it might as well be an extra-gripey middle school relationship. No, it's co-ed. Small, but co-ed.
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Post by goten0040 on Aug 17, 2008 14:45:51 GMT -5
I think puppy love in middle school is expected - kids are growing up, etc. I don't think it should go beyond holding hands - maybe a kiss or two. I mean, c'mon. They're still pretty much kids. They're growing up too fast nowadays. *shrug*
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Post by Aanglover on Aug 21, 2008 9:33:36 GMT -5
haha.. yeah... the naive ol' days of middle school... i had a boyfriend in middle school... (if you could call it that) he didn't even really acknoledge me or hold my hand or anything.. yeah.... sweet sweet middle school. xDD
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Post by Kana on Aug 21, 2008 17:14:01 GMT -5
LOL HOW ABOUT 2 YEARS? xxD Yeah. I had my first "boyfriend" for about two years in Middle School. It was more like we were two best friends of the opposite gender and we both had crushes on eachother kind of relationship. He called me his girlfriend, but, eh, we were young. Then he moved away.
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Post by Aanglover on Aug 21, 2008 17:16:16 GMT -5
yeah, the relationship pretty much goes down the tubes in middle school when one person moves.... *comforts Kana*
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Post by mike1921 on Aug 21, 2008 17:35:47 GMT -5
I'd imagine it goes down the tubes at any point in time unless the other person is willing to move with them. LOL HOW ABOUT 2 YEARS? xxD Yeah. I had my first "boyfriend" for about two years in Middle School. It was more like we were two best friends of the opposite gender and we both had crushes on eachother kind of relationship. He called me his girlfriend, but, eh, we were young. Then he moved away. sorry about that kana.
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Post by ilovetaang03 on Aug 21, 2008 18:58:43 GMT -5
i had a realtionship in middle school. and i aggree with Mike. they are not fully pointless. you learn alot by dating in middle school. one thing i learned that im not going to ever again. NEVER EVER EVER date your best guy friend. never do that! it gets really awkward between you two and then you break up. but middle school realation ships useally only last a good week or so. altough my friend meg wnet out with some one for a little over a year.
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Post by mike1921 on Aug 21, 2008 19:03:52 GMT -5
I knew people in 5th grade, they weren't in middle school, but they would've been if that new school wasn't opened up recently (4th and 5th graders), that were together for half a year.
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Post by Aanglover on Aug 23, 2008 15:43:07 GMT -5
i had a realtionship in middle school. and i aggree with Mike. they are not fully pointless. you learn alot by dating in middle school. one thing i learned that im not going to ever again. NEVER EVER EVER date your best guy friend. never do that! it gets really awkward between you two and then you break up. but middle school realation ships useally only last a good week or so. altough my friend meg wnet out with some one for a little over a year. i'd have to disagree on that ilovetaang03... my boyfriend and i right now were best friends before we started dating, and we're a lot closer than we were as just friends. we get along so well and just click. so it might have been that u and your guy friend didn't really have personalities that clicked?? but yeah.. middle school dating is mostly to give u a taste of what will come in high school.
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Post by goten0040 on Aug 23, 2008 22:07:39 GMT -5
Aanglover and ilovetaang - I'm about half way between your views. It can be really awkward dating a friend and breaking up with said friend. You have to be careful and willing to let your friendship live past a relationship.
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Post by beautyfr.pain on Aug 23, 2008 22:48:36 GMT -5
but yeah.. middle school dating is mostly to give u a taste of what will come in high school. I disagree...I mean, I understand the puppy-love thing in middle school, and CASUAL dating in HS, but if you're casually, or even seriously, dating in middle school, are you going to take it to the next level in high school? There are exceptions, of course, but a lot of times, relationships aren't/shouldn't be serious until you're in a steady point in your life where a relationship would be more beneficial then not. I think college gives you a taste of what will come in your adult life, and sometimes high school can give you a taste of college with mature people. And I actually "dated" my best friend in sixth grade for two weeks forever ago. It made our friendship a lot stronger because we realized that we were totally not compatible, so we never had to worry about attraction to each other ruin our friendship and we could trust each other more fully when we talked about crushes and stuff. I also learned more about him. He's a hopeless romantic and not that great of a boyfriend since he gives girls "space" and doesn't do the boyfriend-like-a-best-friend thing so i can help him when he has girl problems in the future. But seriously, it was the most ludicrous thing ever. I think the best thing that came out of it was his random serenades of Stacy's Victoria's Mom.
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Post by mike1921 on Aug 23, 2008 23:09:03 GMT -5
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