Are Most Zutaraians Boys or Girls? Nov 24, 2006 21:18:29 GMT -5
Post by catalyst283 on Nov 24, 2006 21:18:29 GMT -5
From personal experience, the bad boy is also the one who hurts her AND her family and children and makes life a living h*** when she can't "change" him. The bad boy is the abuser, the rapist, the one who uses a woman and throws her away when she ceases to interest him.
catalyst283 said:That's usually because the bad boy is the only one who challenges her; actually makes her fight for what she believes in.
True, though not all 'bad boys' are like that; it all depends on what your definition of a 'bad boy' is. He could just be poorly off, or maybe he dresses in a away that makes him 'different' and like a 'bad boy'.
I usually consider the types of boys you said there as "jerks" and other things relating to that; not necessarily a "bad boy".
Since when is the class clown or the goofy guy a "bad boy"? I'm always cracking jokes, but I'm pretty far from that classification.
Eh; sorry about about that. That's not exactly what I meant. <_> I was trying to connect what I was saying to something, but didn't say it right.
See in my personal experience, the reason I put "the class clown" and similar classfications in there; is that there have been a few guys I've known that have had that all rolled into one. They've been the class clown, the loud kid, the bad boy and possibly the loser. (And yea, I was an idiot back then for liking a few of them; though thank goodness it never went further than that -_-)
I'm sorry I classified all class clowns as "bad boys", that's just been my personal experience.
I'm not saying that I may not eventually have/end up with a good guy, but right now, it's not looking that way, and that's why I support Zutara.
Because the way I see it (And I'm not bashing; just stating my opinion) a relationship with a girl that speaks her mind and a shy boy usually ends because the girl is bored and frustrated that the boy won't speak up, and the boy is intimidated by the girl['s boldness].
Again, since when does the nice boy also have to be the "shy" boy? And speaking from someone who is in that position anyway - aggressiveness in a female can be appreciated as long as it can supportive as well. The point of beginning with a friendship is that you can find the ways that you function well with the boy or girl of your choice - that you support each other instead of tearing each other down. I've seen a great many friends hurt because they decided they wanted the "bad" boy/girl - thinking that their influence could make a difference to that person. But it is rarely the actual case.
Again, just in my personal experience. I've just never met a nice guy that hasn't been loud or not really afraid to say his opinion; because most of the time they've been on the borderline of "rude" and "obnoxious".
Yet again in my case; though I guess I'm intimidating because I'm smart and not afraid to speak my mind (Hey look at me talk people's ears off here with my opinion XD) though I'm very supporting of my friends and people I like.
And as for your last few sentences; that's not the reason that I've known people to get into a relationship like that. They've done it not because they want to change the person; but because they want to know what it's like on "the other side". They don't know what it's like because that's not them, and that's why they find it intersting. People are naturally curious, and fullfulling curiousity is very easy in a relationship.
And I don't think that you have to "tear each other down" just because you're "opposites". I know I'm going to get all scientific here, but hear me out.
In bonds of atoms, opposites attract. (Oh god; that sounded so cliche XD) They attract to make each other stable, because they fill what the other has not/is not. If they were with a similar/same atom, it would not work, they would not be complete. (My chemistry teacher is going to be so proud of me )
And that is similar to relationships with 'opposites' with people. They are attracted to each other because the other has what they do not. And they fullfill each other.
I'm not saying it's not hard, and they have to try hard to make the relationship to work, but as they say, "The dictionary is the only place where success comes before work".